Finding Mr. Right Online

The odds of finding your “soul-mate” on-line are a lot better than you may think. It doesn't happen for everyone, of course, but it can happen for you. The world of Internet or on-line dating has exploded over the last few years.

As our lives become busier and busier we need to make better use of our time and energy in our search for the one man who will make our lives complete.

The old saying, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a princess” is no longer true. Why kiss frogs when you can read hundreds of profiles and look at the pictures that go with them for a small monthly fee? That saves time and money…not to mention lip burn.

These are a few good reasons to consider on-line dating:

(1)    There is a wide range of men to choose from. You aren't limited to the men in your social circle or work environment. 

(2)    You have the chance to get to know a lot about a man before you ever contact him for the first time. You will know his age, marital status, what city he lives in, whether he has children, his height/weight and his likes and dislikes all from his profile. You'll even see a picture of him.

(3)    You have a better chance to present yourself in a favorable way. This is especially useful for those of us who are shy. We have time to think about how we want to say things about ourselves and can avoid being tongue tied. Even those who are more extroverted can take time to reflect on who they really are before writing their on-line profile. 

(4)    On-line dating is definitely a time saver. You can meet so many more men in a lot less time than you ever could out in the real world.

How Do I Choose the Right Site

With the explosion of online dating sites has come a virtual smorgasbord of choices. There are free sites… I don’t suggest those but if money is a real concern, they are better than nothing. There are the large paid sites with many and varied features like chat, IM and even matching using profiles. There are the less expensive paid sites with few features. There are special interest sites for almost any thing you can think of...outdoor enthusiasts, couch potatoes, religious, non-religious…like I said…almost anything you can think of. So what’s a girl to do? A girl should choose the site or sites that best fit her needs.

Here are some things to consider:

(1)   Cost. How much do you want or how much can you spend each month for your membership (s)? 

(2)   Features. Which features are the most important to you?

(A)  Profile matching systems. Is this a feature you really want or would you rather decide who is right for you all by yourself?

(B)  Chat and IM’s? There are websites who offer chat rooms and IM’s on their sites. Does that matter or would you be happy just sticking to private email.

(C)  Outside Events…such as speed dating? Are you interested in that?

(D)  Privacy. Some websites allow you to limit who can view your picture or your profile. Does this matter to you or do you want as wide exposure as you can have?

(E)   Safety. There are websites who do background checks of all subscribers and certify their age, marital status and background. Would you feel safer using this feature?

These are a few things but not all things you should think about when choosing an online dating service or services. Do your homework and select wisely for the best results for you.

Nice Girls Do It, Too!

It is completely true that when on-line dating sites first started they were populated entirely by perverts, sexual predators, weir does, social misfits and emotional wrecks but that is no longer true. On-line dating has gone main stream and has lost all the social stigma it once suffered. Single people of all ages, races, religions and both sexes do it. Short people, tall people, thin people, obese people do it. People from every developed country in the world do it. Nice girls do it, too. The reasons people join on-line dating sites are as varied as the people who join but mostly they join for three very good reasons:

(1) Time

(2) Money and

(3) It works. 

Time: You can go through hundreds of on-line profiles and look at hundreds of pictures in the same length of time only one real world date takes and the screening is already done for you. You can tell right away if a guy is only looking for casual relationships or long term commitments. How many times have you worked 8 hours, gone home and spent another hour getting ready to go out then gone to the local hang-out for singles only to see the same old jerks, losers and drunks that are always there?  

Money: For the price of one evening out on the town you can enjoy an entire month of meeting men from the safety of your own home….do it in your jammies or sweats and with a beauty facial working its magic.

It works. It really does work if you are willing to do the right things. Write a profile that grabs attention, place recent pictures of yourself, be fun and interesting while chatting with the men you meet on line, answering e-mails promptly and being on time for a pre-arranged on-line meeting.

Online Flirting – A New Art Form

Many of the same things work for online flirting that work for “brick and mortar” flirting and all relationships begin with successful flirting.  Flirting is an art that requires oozing confidence without being OTT.  If you go too far, she will label you “slimy” If you don’t go far enough, she will label you “wimpy”.  So how do you achieve that point half way between slimy and wimpy and do it online without using eye contact or body language?  All you have is a computer an internet connection and membership in an online dating site, right? 

1. Have fun!  Be light-hearted, funny and entertaining.  Make her eager to talk to you again.  Flirting is playful. 

2. Ooze confidence.  Successful flirts have a optimistic outlook on life.  You need to transmit the “feel good” factor.  An optimistic attitude attracts females like honey attracts flies. 

3.  Compliment her…and do it often and sincerely.  Nothing opens doors like making her feel good about herself.  She will want to spend more time with you and if she pays you a compliment say “thank you”.  Do not be self depreciating. 

4. Listen…listen….listen.  Pay attention to what she says and ask suitable questions.  Get her to open up and talk about herself.  Make her feel like she is interesting and that you are interested in her.  Works wonders!

5. Don’t be rude.  Flirting does not include being sexually explicit nor taking offence if the lady isn’t responding to you. If she isn’t interested, take the hint and move on to the next prospect.  If you get a lot of rejections, you should probably consider a different approach. 

6. Send an email after you chat.  This ranks right up there with sending a thank you note for a gift and it is vital to successful flirting. 

Don't try to go too fast.  Flirting is the first step to a successful relationship.

Online Dating For Single Men

No matter what your age, height, weight or physical look, there are thousands of women out there eager to meet you and eager for your company…whether short-term or long-term relationships are what you want.  If you have found yourself suddenly “on-the-market” again after a relationship has dissolved or are just too busy with your work to spend a lot of time looking for a lady to keep you company, on-line dating can open the door to the dating scene for you. 

The good news is that all you need is a computer and an Internet connection to get started.  The first thing to do is find an on-line dating site that fits your needs.  There are the large sites that offer many extras like live video chat and even match you up with ladies using your profiles and, also, a lot of sites that cater to special interests like religious preferences, outdoor enthusiasts, gays, etc. You need to choose one or two that will meet your needs.  I don't advise the free sites.  The paid sites have a money back guarantee if you aren't satisfied and the investment is small.  A whole month costs less than one dinner and movie date. 

The next thing you need to do is write a killer, but honest, profile and upload a recent but flattering picture of yourself.   Now you are all set.  Start contacting ladies whose profiles sound interesting to you and answer any lady who contacts you…and do so promptly…not, however, on holidays or weekends.  You don't want to appear that desperate.  Don't give up after a month and think you will never find the right lady for you.  New people join on-line dating services daily and at least half of them are ladies many, of whom, will want to meet you.

Guide to Women Writing a Profile For Online Dating

The first thing is to be absolutely honest about yourself. You are looking for that man who will like…maybe someday love…YOU….THE REAL YOU! Examine past relationships and list the things that you liked and the things you did not like. If he smoked in the house and you hated it, you won't like it any better the next time. If you love cats and will always want to own one or more, say that you are an animal lover and want indoor pets. Someone who hates cats or is allergic to them is not the guy for you.

Accent the things that make you unique. If you play the piano well, you really want Mr. Right to appreciate it. If you run in marathons, a couch potato is not a good match. If you love art, you really don't want a man who thinks Picasso is an ice cream flavor.

Describe the things that are vital in your life. If volunteering is the one thing that makes you feel useful and worthwhile, you want someone who would, at the very least, support you if not join you in your volunteer projects. When you get beyond superficial things, you will attract men who share your values.

Invest in your on-line profile by hiring a professional photographer for your first on-line picture. This is so important. The picture is the FIRST thing men see. The second thing is that they read what you have written about yourself. Some on-line dating sites even provide you with a list of photographers in your area that specialize in on-line dating site photos.